Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Value Our Essence

Here's the real question: What do we have to do to place
more value on age? We have to value ourselves not for
what we look like but for the women we are.
                                                                                        Maya Angelou

As a young woman, the unwanted whistles from truck drivers, sailors, and other strangers were offensive. Today, it is difficult to assess which is worse – being noticed in youth or ignored in old age.

What these thoughts tell me about myself is how much my identity has been based upon my looks. The belief about my value as a woman was fed by my family of origin, cultural beliefs, life experiences and it continues to be fed most brutally by our media-driven environment that has little value for olders and especially female olders.

The body we travel in is the time keeper – it is what ages. There is that 'special something' within each of us that is present from birth through our death – and perhaps beyond. It is that piece of us that does not age but grows in awareness. It is the essence of who we are.

This essence of our true identity, needs to be cultivated and nurtured by each of us. While I will continue to have fun with fashion and make-up and take pleasure in my appearance and body, my work will be to come to understand my value is not dependent upon it.

Henry Miller says it best: “Everyday the choice is presented to us, in a thousand different ways – to live up to the Spirit which is in us or to deny it.” I believe, the work of adulthood is spiritual work to cultivate compassion and kindness toward all and especially ourselves.



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1 comment:

  1. Love this word capsule: "The body we travel in is the time keeper – it is what ages. There is that 'special something' within each of us that is present from birth through our death – and perhaps beyond. It is that piece of us that does not age but grows in awareness. It is the essence of who we are."

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